Emotional Intelligence is Being Aware of Others’ Feelings

Parenting September 14, 2009 Print Friendly and PDF

Parenting Tips for Your 53-54 Month Old Child

Instead of asking, “How smart are you?” about a child, a much better question to ask would be “How are you smart?” Intelligence comes in different varieties, from athletic ability to musical expression, and people are smart in different ways. Among these different forms of intelligence is one, which is very important to a child’s happiness and life success, emotional intelligence.

Emotional intelligence is a type of social intelligence. It guides our thinking and actions.

Emotional intelligence, also called “EI” or “EQ” is:

  • Awareness of our own and others’ feelings
  • Understanding the influence of feelings on ourselves
  • Managing emotions in positive and meaningful ways
  • Recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we feel, think or act
  • The capacity to relate and interact with others
  • The ability to express feelings ranging from love to anger to trust

Encourage your child’s development of emotional intelligence, and nurture his:

  • Personal awareness of emotions and feelings
  • Awareness of how emotions affect making decisions
  • Managing feelings of anxiety or distress
  • Managing feelings of anger
  • Controlling emotional impulses
  • Maintaining positive emotions
  • Awareness of others’ feelings
  • Managing emotional exchanges with others
  • Empathy for others

Learn more about Your Child: 53-54 Months from Just In Time Parenting. You can also go to our Resource Links for additional information on child care and development.

Note to Parents: When reading this newsletter, remember: Every baby is different. Children may do things earlier or later than described here. This newsletter gives equal space and time to both sexes. If he or she is used, we are talking about all babies.
References: These materials were adapted by authors from Extension Just in Time Parenting Newsletters in California, Delaware, Georgia, Iowa, Kentucky, Maine, Tennessee, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Mexico, and Wisconsin.


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This work is supported by the USDA National Institute of Food and Agriculture, New Technologies for Ag Extension project.